I am not on good speaking terms with my X-wife however, we have two children that are four and seven years old.  My seven year old son had to go to the dentist for three fillings.  Which just get me upset that she is not on top of his teeth care.  (note he is with her most of the  time I only get to see my sons  twice a month for two week ends a month. )

Any way the deal is she has our boys on her dental insurance plan though Delta Dental and I pay for all the co payments still do the dentist.   However she goes to a dental that makes her pay in full for the dental services and then shes get the refund back form the insurance company.

This makes me left paying  the complete dental bill.  The problem is since the dental insurance is in her name and not mine they send the refund to my wife  payable to my wife.  Then I have to fight to get this money back or she would just keep it to spend on herself.   I am left never knowing if she is really given me back all the money that was due me.  As well as having to wait five times longer to get back what I do get.

Is there anyway to get the insurance company to give me the refund that is due me?  And not to keep sending it to her?  If so how do I go about it?